Mom
December 9, 1922 – December 17, 2005
Mom was on this planet for 83 years and 9 days…and then she was gone. Recently, I spoke with my friend Kris who is a spiritualist and a medium. Kris said both my parents were VERY happy Dave was in my life and that my Mom was taking credit for us meeting (since she’s the one who wanted to send me to the church run group therapy session I originally met Dave at). As long as she’s happy, it’s all good 
My cousin, Melodie, sent me this poem the morning after Mom passed:
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!”
“Gone where?”
Gone from my sight. That is all.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!” there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout:
“Here she comes!”
And that is dying.
- Henry Van Dyke
Posted in family | 9 Comments
December 17th, 2010 at 1:09 pm
I love that poem.
Also? I love that your mom took credit for Dave.
December 17th, 2010 at 1:13 pm
I’m giggling at your mom. So glad she’s happy. Your dad, too.
December 17th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Your cousin is a wise soul and a loving friend. ♥
Not everyone gets to say they met her sweetheart at church! Good job, Mom.
December 17th, 2010 at 3:29 pm
God, I just loved your Mom something fierce. She and I just had that weird sort of connection. I’m a better person having had her in my life.
Hugs, Jan. I know, you miss her too.
December 18th, 2010 at 1:46 am
Happiness all around!
December 18th, 2010 at 4:56 pm
Janet – I remember this day vividly and always will – something about Barnes and Noble and your reaction! I cannot believe it has already been 5 years. FIVE years. Betty is watching out for all of us and I just know with every part of me that she is fiercely so very happy for you and Dave.
December 19th, 2010 at 10:12 am
Kris is good!
So happy that your Mom approves!
xoxo
December 19th, 2010 at 1:07 pm
Wow, that’s lovely! I’m so glad your parents are happy. They deserve it – and so do you!
December 22nd, 2010 at 12:09 am
That is a beautiful way to see the loss (to us) of someone. So sorry you are without your mom, but how wonderful to still feel her presence.